If you’re relationally intelligent, empathetic, successful, yet somehow still single
you’ve come to the right place.
You’re not crazy. There’s a gap in the dating industry for women like you.
You’re a people person. You’re attuned, considerate, and understanding. Your independent and capable. You have a good life - great friends, a successful career, hobbies. Yet, you keep attracting:
Men who pursue you HARD, only to pull back, stop planning dates, texting less, eventually saying they “lost motivation” or “only see you as friend.”
Emotionally unavailable men who feel like soulmates, ugh. The connection is deep, meaningful, and real, yet they don’t have the capacity to commit to you.
And…you’re EXHAUSTED.
You probably think you need to go to therapy, try texting scripts, fix your anxious attachment, overhaul your nervous system, swipe more, read more books
…or maybe you’re just a terrible flirt!?
None of these are the answer for women like you. Let me explain…
Therapy can teach you baseline communication and intimacy skills, but therapists aren’t trained in attraction, energy, or male psychology which are all crucial for successful dating. Plus, therapy often causes you to get stuck in the past or in victim-mentality.
Texting scripts are for women who lack social skills and need explicit instruction to connect. Point blank. But you already know how to connect with people. You’re already warm, funny, and smart.
Anxious Attachment work is necessary if you have abandonment wounds that cause debilitating anxiety and major nervous system dysregulation. Many women misdiagnose themselves as Anxiously Attached because they have dating anxiety, which leaves blind spots about the actual issues. Not to mention, dating anxiety can be normal in a socially isolating world and a confusing dating landscape.
Spending time on the apps is the answer if you are not socially confident enough to talk to strangers or meet men in person. I’m guessing this isn’t you either.
Nervous system overhauls: If you have deep trauma, major reactivity, or depression, you might be wired for up & down dynamics and need more excavation. But most high functioning women only need light nervous system work.
Books are great, but they’re limited. Education only takes you so far.
And NOO!!! You don’t need to learn how to flirt. Flirting is just accessing your innate sense of play.
So what’s the real problem?
It’s energetic.
Let me explain.
there are three ways energy impacts your relationships:
YOUR ENERGY: Relationally attuned women tend to become hypervigilent, anxious, contained, or conflict-avoidant to preserve the connection, which prevents you from being your most empowered self.
Energy is the foundation of attraction. Not just initial chemistry, but if attraction grows or diminishes overtime. Your energy is already warm and open — that’s why men are drawn to you in the first place. But as the relationship unfolds and feelings grow, relationally attuned women tend to become hypervigilent, anxious, contained, or conflict-avoidant. All of these are simply protective strategies to preserve the connection, but they do a number on your frequency and nervous system and prevent you from showing up as your most empowered, authentic self. The shift is not to be “cool,” “detached,” or “hard to get,” it’s to remain open while also claiming your worth and value. A regal energy that expects love versus tries to earn it.
HIS ENERGY: Intelligent women try to decode who is right for them through logic rather than their nervous system which leads them to select the wrong men.
Most successful, smart women tend to date with their heads. They try to figure him out versus feeling him. They create lists of qualities. They override early somatic cues that tell them he’s emotionally unavailable, not oriented towards partnership, or simply not their match. Rather, they fixate on attraction, status, charm, humor, creative talents, or how good he looks on paper. This isn’t a discernment issue, the problem is that you’re ignoring your body in favor of your mind. Masculine energy is not decoded with logic, it’s read through the nervous system. His availability, capacity for intimacy, and even your energetic compatibility is felt long before you can articulate it. The shift is to date with your body. This means feeling into the masculine energy you want to receive, not the potential you hope to activate. And letting your nervous system, rather than your mind, do the assessment.
THE RELATIONAL FIELD: Considerate women overfunction through overgiving, leading, and emotionally holding the relationship, which overtime, trains men to underfunction.
This is what happens when your energy meets his, and it’s where emotionally intelligent women unknowingly collapse polarity. They respond to men in the way they would want to be treated. They are generous with their time and emotional energy, sacrifice their needs for his comfort, show interest through questions and planning dates, and communicate in a very emotionally-regulated way. These are not inherently bad behaviors, but they are masculine behavioral patterns. When a woman becomes the relational leader, overtime it trains men to underfunction, pursue less, and reduces attraction because there is no tension. Plus, relating like this is EXACTLY why you’re exhausted. You are doing wayyyy too much of the labor. The shift here is to learn how to respond versus manage. How to allow space for him to pursue while still being connected, receptive, and self led — this is empowered feminine leadership.
All of these are masculine energetics because they are about energy going outward and come from your head.
These dynamics are subtle…but they disrupt polarity and nervous system calibration which is why you keep ending up in these dead end relationships.
When you integrate feminine dating energetics, your energy moves inward to your needs, feelings, and desires. You express from your body & heart— and from your feminine power.
This is what attracts a masculine, attuned, high functioning, relational leader who will be eager to commit to you.
this is exactly what I teach you to do in:
Relcaiming Her
Private coaching for single, professional women 30+ to learn to date from their feminine and attract a committed, masculine partner.
in Reclaiming Her, you’ll learn
dating apps & IRL strategy
Position yourself in a way that is unique, authentic, and stand out to attract more men on & offline. Plus, learn how to swipe without exhaustion!
feminine expression
Communicate needs, desires, tough emotions, and boundaries so that the healthy masculine can receive it
intimacy skills
Deepen connection and learn tools and practices that increase early stage bonding
compatibility framework
Discover the type of man that uniquely helps you thrive and how to assess dates from your body versus your mind
somatic & nervous system work
Re-connect to your body and learn how to effectively process anxiety, tension, anger, and sadness so that you can release stuck emotion & show up with more joy and aliveness
hypnosis & visualization
Learn how to boost your energetic state in ten minutes a day so that you show up and feel more powerful in dating and life.
Words from past clients
“Liz makes vulnerable subjects easy to talk about. I went from being self-conscious, comparing myself to others, and being consumed by relationships to feeling less anxious and becoming more aware of my emotions, and having healthy relationships that are completely different from my past relationships. Change can be uncomfortable and seem impossible, but with Liz, you really can picture what and who you want to be and get there. Liz supports you along the way and makes the process fun 😊
I initially reached out to Liz as l was single and struggling to trust that l would find the right partner for me which was making me make unhealthy choices around men and dating. I very quickly felt as ease, heard and seen by Liz but also appreciated her honest and direct approach around what l was experiencing. I was impressed by her knowledge in the field of dating and attraction. I learnt how to stand more firmly in myself and what l ACTUALLY want in a partner. I had long lists of things that weren't actually that important. Getting down to the core needs was super helpful.
The changes l've seen is that l trust myself more deeply, l have been secure in dating and have been attracting a lot more men organically through life as l am not holding on to tightly. I am more clear on what l want in a partnership and giving myself permission to see it as a journey. I feel l am less in a place of need for partnership and seeking and more in a place of surrender and deep trust which has made all the different. “
“It’s been really nice to have Liz by my side on this journey.
Liz crossed my path at the right time. I saw her posts on Instagram and thought: wow, she gets me. I was like: should I do this, should I do this, should I should I should I (her coaching). And I’m glad that I did. Liz is very good at what she does. She mixes being empathetic and professional very well. It was so good to know while being in the “arena” (aka, dating) that I knew Liz were there, that I could ask for her guidance any time.
Liz helped me gain confidence. I learned setting boundaries from her, speaking up for myself, telling what I need and want. Showing the real me, all of me - which is, of course, a work in progress :) If there’s one line that will always stick to me, it is this one: “you only know if someone is right for you, if you show them the fullness of who you are". Thank you to Liz for holding the space.”
“I started working with Liz at a time when I truly didn’t think I’d ever get over my past relationship of more than 10 years. Through our work together, I began to uncover so much about myself and the patterns I had been holding onto—many that weren’t even directly related to that relationship.
My biggest win during our time together has been learning to sit with uncomfortable feelings and lean into them without judgment. That inner work has helped me feel more grounded and present in my day-to-day life. I’m still a work in progress, but I’ve become much better at not being so hard on myself. I’ve also noticed that I can now hold more space for myself—my wants, my needs, and my emotions—in a way I never could before.
When it comes to dating, I’ve learned not to take it so seriously and to just show up as my authentic self, knowing that being real and genuine is actually endearing.
Working with Liz has been such a gift. She is incredibly kind, thoughtful, and has the warmest energy. I always felt safe and supported in our sessions, and I can honestly say that this experience has changed how I view myself and how I move through life.”
Reclaiming Her
includes…
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Depending on how committed to you to your process!
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8-16 sessions total, 60 minutes, virtually via Zoom. Sessions are used for questions around implementation of the material as well as energetic work
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You’ll have access to Liz on Voxer for 2 days a week in between sessions. This is where the magic happens - in between sessions as you integrate the principles of what you're learning.
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Video trainings, somatic practices, reflective exercises, journaling, and more to help you deepen your journey
Who this journey is for:
Women ready to actually date or in early stage relationships (we can’t do this work hypothetically)
Women who are already relationally attuned and intelligent - you already have great social skills, they just aren’t translating to men
Women who are over-processors or tend to intellectualize their emotions
Women who are wired for other people’s comfort and self edit or avoid conflict to preserve harmony and the connection
Women who are ready to invest in themselves and commit to the process (this work works when you’re devoted to bi-weekly sessions and doing the practices in between, not when you dip your toe in)
Who this journey is not for:
Women who want rules, scripts, or playbooks to hook a man
Women who are still dealing with a lot of trauma or reactivity
Women who are resistant to dating or are actively pushing away love (My work works best when you are motivated to find a partner)
Women who are still in the depths of a breakup and aren’t ready to date yet (come back when you’re ready to get back out there!)
Women who are in long term relationships already (I don’t do couples counseling)
Women who are experiencing nervous system collapse - debilitating anxiety or major depressive symptoms (I highly recommend a therapist who is trained in nervous system work)
Meet your guide:
Hi, i’m Liz.
You’re smart, so you probably want my resume…what makes me qualified to lead you in this work?
I’ll give you my stats, but more importantly - I’ve been there.
On the outside, I had it all figured out. An Ivy League Graduate, making 6 figures before I was 25. Living in a cool apartment in Brooklyn with lots of friends - life seemed good.
Yet my romantic life was a mess. In my twenties and early thirties, I had a series of short term relationships with men who pursued me hard and then pulled back or unavailable men. And I had no idea why I was attracting these dynamics,
I tried therapy, but I kept going in circles. I went down a certain dating coach’s Youtube rabbithole and used all the texting scripts and flirting advice. I memorized Why Men Marry Bitches. I kept swiping, but the patterns kept repeating.
The truth was, as someone who is naturally relationally attuned, empathetic, sensitive, and very much motivated to be in partnership, I had a tendency to over-give, do a lot of emotional labor, edit myself, withhold my needs, and try to be super easygoing to keep the connection going. Yet, all of this backfired. I overfunctioned, and I attracted men who underfunctioned. Polarity baby!
After studying feminine energetics, male psychology, polarity work, hypnosis, somatic healing, and nervous system regulation, I was able to change my own relational energetics, and I attracted my first ever devoted, committed, reciprocal partnership. We live together in Denver with my sweet cockapoo.
I’ve coined my body of work Relational Energetics as a new method for women who haven’t gotten results from dating rules, attachment work, or therapy. Oh, and I’m a certified Hypnotherapist, IIN Life Coach, Integrative Relationship coach, with 5+ years of coaching experience, and 100+ clients served.
Ok, have I convinced you yet!?
Apply for
Reclaiming Her
After reviewing your application to confirm you’re a good fit, I’ll send you a message on Instagram to further discuss. You’ll also be invited to an optional clarity call to get all of your questions answered.
